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Hate, Detox, Backlash and a Board of Directors: Mandatory Member Reading.

I want everyone to know something very important about myself and MySaline.com. I've been saddened and angered to see the behavior that has come out here in grown adults. Bickering, name-calling, lies and other childish and downright evil character has become
 what many people think about when they hear the name "MySaline.com."

This website is something I've worked hard on for
 nearly five years. I've made it into something that people already know about before I can tell them. It's made me a local celebrity. People greet me all the time now and I have no idea who many of them are. This might sound cool and exciting, but as soon as someone speaks about what's happening on the site, it's all about...



  1. What I must be going through because of the 
lawsuit against members of the site,

  2. How the site is covered up with
 hate and
 negativity from people who don't even sign their own name to their comments.


I don't know if this is going to make sense to you, or if you'll even read this, given that you're either one of the people guilty of this behavior or you're one of the people avoiding the site because of that behavior... But here goes.

As alluded to above,
MySaline is my baby. I've spent countless days and nights - and overnights - feeding it, teaching it to walk and talk and cleaning up after its messes. I got my baby to a point where I didn't have to watch her every second. She was able to feed and dress herself and be rather independent. I was the proud parent for some long time.

Now what's happened is comparable to a stranger coming in and pushing drugs on a child. The parent's efforts don't have the same effect on the child. The child pulls away and becomes engulfed in the new culture of poor decisions and regrettable consequences that come with her new habit. A 
terrible, sad and hurtful habit, both to herself, her parents, and to society in general.

You want to raise your child to be a healthy, positive contributor to society. You want her to be successful and beautiful in as many ways possible. When find that your child is on drugs, you feel that you've lost her. You feel you've failed her. You'll do whatever you can to bring her back. The damage is done and you can't undo it,
but there is something a parent can do.

This is the hard part.  You have to strip away the things that are harming her, but she's addicted to them.
You have to separate the child from the drug and watch her scream and cry and shiver through detox. I will also compare this to having to make that painful incision in surgery in order to get the tumor out from under the skin.
The tumor that's consuming your child's flesh.


I'm speaking in parallels because this is one of the more difficult things I've had to write. I need desperately for you to understand what's about to happen. Moreover, I need your help in deciding what should happen next. I've paused and breathed deep and walked away a couple times and come back to this writing since eight o'clock this morning. We don't always get to say exactly what we mean, but I'm putting my best into this.


You know that I have allowed anonymous members on MySaline.com because there are some things that must be said. Many times, the person who must say what must be said will become someone with something to lose after they have said it. This is the only reason I have allowed it. What's happened is that certain members have taken that freedom and run in a full-blown, no-holds-barred direction akin to dropping a piano on the sidewalk to kill a weed.

Last night, a longtime MySaline member that I call friend asked me a simple question: [paraphrased] "Has everyone on MySaline gone flat crazy?!" Next, another friend and member since forever expressed how awful it is on MySaline, particularly close to election time and she hasn't checked in for a while. Then, still another friend who's been a member from nearly the start said that he hasn't been on in a long time. He didn't say why, but I know. These remarks from good and trustworthy friends cut me. I felt at that moment like I wanted to delete every member who didn't put their name behind what they say. For a few minutes, this really was my decision. Luckily for you and for me, my very best friend called and interrupted my thought process. 

So here's what's going to happen. I'm going through the site today - yes, on election day, of all days - and I'm deleting the troublemakers. You've seen me make several appeals over the months and years for members to read and take care to follow the site agreement. It's so very simple, and yet people don't do it. Some people even say they are following it - or after I've messaged them to talk about it they say they'll do better to follow it. They aren't. They just aren't. I say "they" because I'm assuming at this point that the troublemakers have stopped reading. So here goes.

I'm certain this move will provoke much fork-tongued backlash to show up in my inbox... From the people who never cared that this isn't just any website. It. Is. My. Baby. MySaline.com has got the heart of the close-knit community of Saline County in it. That's you and me. This site is no longer a hobby for me - I've quit my day job and benefits and regular paycheck to turn the crank on this ice cream maker until it no longer makes ice cream. Or until nobody is left that likes ice cream. The name "MySaline" is now synonymous with "Shelli Russell," my own name my parents gave me. I want my family to be proud of that name; proud to speak of what I do. 

So if you're with me, I'll need your help. I'll need you to give me suggestions about what the site needs. I'll need folks who care to get together in person on a regular basis and discuss what's working, what isn't, and what's next for MySaline... your watering hole, your history book, your go-to for community questions and more. All these members aren't for nothing. Let's make MySaline.com fun, informational, easy, and hate-free.

Please email me at shelli@mysaline.com if you're in for any of that last paragraph. I'll add you to the MySaline Army and after the election tonight and after the Freedom of Speech Rally June 1st, we'll rock the snot out of this bad boy.

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Comment by Peter Glenn on May 22, 2012 at 1:37pm

Several good ideas on here.  I agree with The Truth who just posted.  But I also agree with Billy Mathis that says that civil discussions usually employ heavy handed moderators. But maybe just by requiring the use of real names so everyone would own their words.  That has been mentioned many times in the past.  Until you require that it will continue to get out of hand.  I enjoy blogs which use Facebook because it is more civil and people have to own their comments. Some on here are hogging the blog with long posts that just try to force their opinions on others.  You need to put the most positive bloggers on your committee, such as Pam Hargrave, Yvonne Dougherty, and Kenneth Ray who I haven't seen on the blog lately.  Maybe take a poll occasionally on who the troublemakers are and then do something about it.  It won't stop unless you take radical steps.

Comment by Donna Jones on May 22, 2012 at 1:34pm

I LOVE you speaking in parallels, maybe the unhappy will now understand that decent HUMANS don't treat each other this way.  It's ok to be for Ward, It's ok to be for Pennington..IF..  that is your choice.  I am sorry your having to make this move & decision Shelli, but I think it's in the best interest of your baby.  Personally, If I have an issue with anyone, i have no problem of going straight to them.  Wish others could pony up & do the same, Have a BRIGHT HAPPY Day yall! ~Donna

Comment by TheTruth on May 22, 2012 at 1:23pm

I wonder if it would help to have a separate "forum" area for discussions, away from the front page.

Comment by Allen Wright on May 22, 2012 at 1:21pm

You go Shelli. 

Comment by LilyBelle on May 22, 2012 at 1:21pm

Bottom line, each individual CHOOSES to post or not to post. 

 

As a good parent would try to tell their child:  make good choices. 

Comment by Mom K. on May 22, 2012 at 1:15pm

Good for you Shellie, this has been along time coming. With you 100%! I dont post much, but do follow the stories and OMG you are correct! You Go Girl!

Comment by Chris on May 22, 2012 at 1:15pm
I fear the boot sometimes, but dangitt, some of these people who show up out of nowhere simply to complain just drive me nuts with their ridiculous claims. I know I straddle your line, and probably cause you a headache. Just glad you haven't deleted me yet. Well, at least the election is almost over. :)
Comment by john pearson on May 22, 2012 at 1:07pm

Well said Shelli, but I must say that most sites I have visited in all the years I've been on the internet are very similar, and many alot worse, no matter what the subject matter. Human nature I guess. Doesnt make it right, and I would never act like a jerk myself, but the world is full to overflowing with jerks and cutthroats, many on the internet. A tough skin is mandatory. I love this site, dont let the negativity get you down. You are doing a great job!

Comment by Billy Mathis on May 22, 2012 at 1:07pm

Good to hear.  People get really bold whilst commenting anonymously on the Internet and especially while talking about politics.  Internet forums that I interact in, and are usually most effective in having civil discussions about any topic, usually employee very heavy handed moderators or moderating software that keeps the ill mannered at bay. 

I've been shocked at some personal attacks on people the last few days around here, and expected to see some action taken.  I can't believe there has been this much bad blood over a county clerk primary!   Geez it wasn't like they were running for something important like Dogcatcher or anything.  

Keep up the good work Poolio, I've got your back.

Comment by Shelli Russell on May 22, 2012 at 1:01pm

And you have no idea how much I appreciate you folks and I'm sorry there have been these bullies hanging out on the front steps.

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